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Note: If you want to skip the hype-splanation, and cut straight to the recipe,  click here or go down to the “Click HERE for more” below….  Also note that I’ve included a plain text and a plain HTML version as well.  I recommend checking back to this page before attempting to cook it, as I plan on updating the recipe from time to time.

It is done.  I have done it.  I have perfected my Mom’s Mattar Paneer recipe!

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You don’t know what I’m talking about? You don’t know what mattar paneer is?  You poor, unwashed, heathen.  Wikipedia will tell you that mattar paneer is “is an Indian dish consisting of paneer (cheese) and peas in a sweet and spicy sauce.”

What Wikipedia won’t tell you is:
  • “Mattar” = “Peas”, “Paneer” = “cheese”
  • It’s perhaps the single best dish my Mom makes (& she’s quite a cook!)
  • Paneer is home-made, light, mild, cheese – kinda like a firm cottage cheese, or ricotta cheese in taste (very subtle) and has a texture almost like tofu
  • Arguments over who got the most paneer were the flashpoint for many battles at the dining room table between my brother and I.  Eventually, my parents had to begin a strict equal apportionment scheme to reduce conflict.
  • It is one of my three or four favorite foods.

So you might be thinking “Ok, so it is a recipe, and you can make it.  Nice, but no big deal…”  This suggests you don’t understand that I CAN NOT COOK.  What little cooking skills I have, I have learned in order to make this dish (& a few others like it).  Seriously: Can. Not. Cook. Googled-to-look-up-how-to-boil-eggs-earlier-this-year.

Get it?  And now after years and years of learning and figuring it out, my Mattar Paneer recipe is as good as my mom, Swaran Jawa, makes it.  It’s now officially, crazy + delicious.  I have been attempting this for years…  Many of you have tried it and thought “Oh this is good” – but it hasn’t been – you just didn’t know better.  But now, finally it is legit.  Soooo good.

I should add that to be able to cook something as good as my Mom is huge for me as I still have little common cooking sense.  This means there are probably improvements, simplifications, and twists that you folks will come up that will take me years to figure out – so please put them in the comments and email them my way.  Seriously – it took me literally 2 years of trying this recipe to realize that I could avoid burning the pot by using more oil.  Yep. 2 years.  (And actually, truth be told, I didn’t even realize it – my esteemed sous chef, Bob, figured it out. THANKS BOB)  So feel free to help me learn faster.

Also, I’d like to ask that if you pass this recipe along, just make sure you give credit to my Mom :-) she deserves it!  (Happy Mother’s Day Mom! AND THANKS FOR ALL THE HELP!)

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A few notes, before we jump into the recipe:

  • The two most interesting parts of this recipe can be purchased from an Indian food store as my Mom likes to remind me.  The gharam masala spice mixture and the paneer.  I say “Mom, if I wanted to buy Indian food, I’d just go to an Indian restaurant!”  But if you are looking to reduce the level of difficulty, those are real options.  I’d say whatever you do, make your own paneer – it is EASY and SOOOO COOL.
  • If you are expecting this to look and taste like mattar paneer you get in most Indian restaurants, you will be disappointed.  And you will deserve a good flogging. I’ve come across very few Indian restaurants that don’t do a lame job of mattar paneer.  They usually skimp on the cheese, and the cheese they do make is not very good.  They also tend to make the base heavy with cream (bleagh) – even the wikipedia picture is this style.  Bleagh.  This is the best version of mattar paneer I know folks & it is not just because it is what I’m used too – most Indians I knew growing up loved my Mom’s version too.
  • This is best served over basmati rice or with naan bread (lightly toasted pita bread is a good naan substitute – the fluffier the better).  I also recommend putting some plain yogurt on it if you are serving it with rice. Yum!
  • This recipe is in 3 parts, and two of these three parts are the key parts to two of my other favorite foods of all time, my Mom’s rajmah (red beans) and my Mom’s masala chicken! Once you get this down, those other recipes are pretty easy.
  • If you can’t do dairy, or are vegan – replace the paneer with tofu.  This is commonly done & quite yummy.  Also if you can’t do tomato sauce* (too acidy for an ex-GF – thanks for all the help Celeste!) you can substitute yogurt – still yummy.
  • I’ve uploaded a few random scattered pictures I’ve taken through the years - they will help you get a sense of what this all should look like.  Hopefully I’ll get around to adding a definitive set someday.
  • I’ll be updating the recipe from time to time, so check back before you attempt it – it may have been improved.  And hopefully, people will leave improvements in the comments.

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Trikeasaurus 1.0 is dead. The trailblazing tricycle of my affections can cart sound systems no more. She will be sadly missed. A moment of silence for the beast that sparked many a FlashDance and brought many many smiles to San Francisco (& me!)

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(photo courtesy of KayVee.INC on Flickr)

Being a simple recreational trike, she was never really physically capable of the hard riding being Trikeasaurus required, but damn if she didn’t make a good try. Bent seat posts, broken fenders, and now finally, a cracked rear axle have taken a toll.

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The cracks* in the axle have more to do with my new speaker-mount rig (super awesomely heavy duty, but alas too heavy) than the trike itself, but it just reinforced the fact that this light duty recreational trike was never designed for the kind of wear and tear I put it through…..

Fear not, Trike-fans! I’ve ordered a new Worksman industrial grade tricycle** to become Trikeasaurus 2.0. Trike 1.0 – we’ll miss ya!

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*I’m planning on trying to get the cracks in the axle welded so it can be given/donated/sold to someone as it is still a useful light duty tricycle….

**I’m getting a “Mover

(Click here if you just wanna see pix of my costume, or click here if you just want to see “making of pix”)

So my long tradition of ridiculously ambitious Halloween costumes continued this year with my second attempt at a dinosaur (to see more, click here for a quick summary or here for all the pics). I did pretty well – I give it a B-.

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(click the picture to see all the pix)

The genesis of this year’s dino, other than my general fascination with the beasties, was the last dino costume, the Deepasaurus (from Halloween 2006). While parts of it worked well (the head!), the totality of the costume left a LOT to be desired. As my friend Peat generously put it at the time “It’s a good 1.0″ :-) Ironically, just as I was finishing that costume, I realized how to make it much better, and with MUCH less effort!

So now, 3 years later – I tried it.


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(click the picture to see all the pix)

What I ended up creating, while much better than Dino 1.0, was a far cry from what I wanted (I made some mistakes!), but still I can’t really complain. It looked great in the end! My costumes are always an iterative process anyway… and I’m pretty happy with Dino 2.0 – The Glamosaur!

Read on if you want to know how I did it…
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After FlashDance 20 (& dancing at Bootie afterwards) Saturday night, I was too much of a sluggolith to make it to the early parts of the always awesome Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence Easter Bonnet Contest & Hunky Jesus Contest. Though I did fly by for a brief dose of Easter Drag Queen Goodness:

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But the main event of the day was at 4pm on Vermont Street: The 9th Annual Bring Your Own Big Wheel Race… basically a bunch of people bring Big Wheels (and similar kids bikes) and race down the REAL windiest street in SF. This year’s edition was very nearly COPSMACKED – but eventually decency prevailed (BIG THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO WORKS SO HARD BEHIND THE SCENES TO MAKE THIS HAPPEN).

I decided to bring Trikeasaurus….

But I didn’t ride down much…. Click HERE for more…

(or “The One SIMPLE REASON You Need to Be On Facebook”)

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I’ve been thinking a lot about Facebook lately, and why it is so great. Not iPhone-great, but almost Wikipedia-great: it has changed the way I use the web, and my life in the real world is richer because of it. Also, I’ve been trying to get all my friends on Facebook. So this blog post is my attempt to convince my hold-out friends (Gretchen, Kelly & Brian, Chell, Greg & Nina!) Feel free to send it to the FB holdouts you know!

THE ONE SIMPLE REASON YOU NEED TO BE ON FACEBOOK: Facebook makes 90% of your friends much more present in your life than ever before. Seriously!

ALLOW ME TO EXPLAIN:
Most of you have a set of friends that you see often: you know what they are up to, how their love lives are going, what their life is like, what movie they just saw, what they are doing this weekend. You often know what they had for breakfast. You call them, they call you, you go out with them, they come over. Things are great. This is your circle of immediate, close friends.

But all of us have friends at circles farther out in our lives. There is the set of close friends that you don’t see as often as your immediate, close friends. There is the set of close friends who live far away. And then there are the good friends who simply aren’t close friends. And so on & so on, there are circles of friends going farther and farther out. I’d imagine that 90% of my friends are in one of those outer circles.

Connecting you to these people is where Facebook really shines:

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So… there are many fun Indian traditions and holidays…. and I’ve gotten to do none of them. Zilch. None. Never.

Until yesterday :-)


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Aparna Abuse (click image for more pix)


For some reason, as a child we skipped all the fun Indian activities and holidays. It was probably for a lot of reasons, but fundamentally maybe there just weren’t enough Indians around in North Carolina 30 years ago? Sort of a cultural critical mass problem?

Anyway, here in the Yay! Area, we don’t have that problem. And thus, every year, the kids at Stanford do a Holi celebration. Holi is the Indian festival of colors & I’ve ALWAYS wanted to do it. I finally made it down this year…..

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Here is a handy FAQ about my 40th Birthday bash, held this past weekend:

Q: Did you have fun?
A: Woooooooooooo! Woooooooooooo! STILL BASKING! I hope some of you had at least half as munch fun as I did. SO. MUCH. FUN.

Q: How many people showed up?
A: I’d LOVE to know – anybody have any good guesses? At it’s peak maybe 150? 200? Anyone? And how many people over the course of the night?

Q: Do I have to look through all 300 odd pix of your party?
A: Um. No. But I seriously recommend this quick-n’dirty little video I made. Just watch a little – All your friends are doing it. You can quit at any time. Really – go on:

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Music: “Don’t Stop Believin’ In Planet Rock: JOURNEY vs. AFRIKA BAMBAATAA” by the AWESOME A Plus D – the hosts of Bootie – my favorite dance party.

Q: The video is great and all but I wanna see pix, yo!?
A:

  1. The best 50 shots (on FaceBook – these shots all come from the two links below)
  2. The best of all the photo booth shots
  3. The best of the random shots

Q: Wow what was the story on the awesome photo booth?
A: Mark Johnson loaned us most of the equipment, Adrian Cotter provided the rest and manned the booth most of the night. YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME. And whilst I’m at it, big thanks to Marc Fong for the disco ball & lighting – rockstars all and all!

Q: Where did you get those awesome cupcakes you were giving out!? Why didn’t I get one?
A: Kara’s Cupcakes! Shocking fact: the white ones are better than the chocolate ones. Shocking. There were only 100 – and I ate one – so 99 :-)

Q: Why GLAM?
A: GLAM – because I love bright shiny things. When i turned 31 I decided to reclaim my love of all things shiny, sparkly & bright. Guys (at least straight ones) aren’t supposed to love that stuff as much as I do. Yeah. Whatever. It’s been all GLAM ever since :-) You can find pix of them all here.

Q: Why a Day of the Dead party?
A: Why “Dia De Los Muertos?” – because I’m 40!!!! Holy Frijoles! Here’s what I wrote in the invite:

As the Wikipedia says “Many people believe that during the Day of the Dead, it is easier for the souls of the departed to visit the living.” And what could be more appropriate for my 40th Birthday? Now that I’m officially dead, the best way for me to visit with you would be my Day of the Dead Party!

Q: What was up with the alien mask?
A: Many years at my GLAM Parties I try elaborate facepaint. I always think I look hideous in the photos. This year inspiration struck. Unfortunately it struck two days before my party, so I had to scramble. And BTW, IT WAS A SKULL DAMMIT!

Q: What was the best costume!??
A: Every year, someone blows me away withe the unexpected. And this year, while Steve G’s macrame ensemble was lovely (though glam?), Adrian’s Day of the Dead work was AMAZING. You MUST check it out here.

Q: So how do you feel now that you’re 40?
A: Eh? What’s that sonny? I can’t hear you?…. hey you kids! get off my lawn!

Seriously – I’m really lucky. You all made this a fantastic birthday party. I really do put a lot into making stuff like this happen, but I get so much more than I put in because of all you fine folks. I love you guys!

(Note: Update 5/21/10 – added link to Adrian’s flickr stream of his costume & fixed typo.)

SF Valentine’s Day Pillow Fight 2009

For the past 3 years on Valentine’s Day here in SF, there has been a MASSIVE flash-mob pillow fight. They have all been moste excellente, but this one was even more vast than the last two…

This video, taken from high above, does it justice:


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And though I had thought about skipping it this year*, the fear of Missing The Fun won out… so I assembled Trikeasaurus & headed out (I actually forgot my pillow!):

NOTE: This video is really long – so watch if you like, but for purposes of this blog post, definitely check out the start & if you want 1:45, 4:30, 5:00, & 6:40 as well (I’ll see if I can get a shorter edit)

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In the end, I got my glasses broken, lost my favorite jacket*, inhaled a troubling amount of goose down, got my nose scraped, & Trikeasaurus was injured. And was it worth it? I think this next shot sums up my feelings….

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You better!

Here is the Facebook Link to the Invite

RSVP on the invite, por favor!

From Glam Birthday 2006

Hey kids – I turned 40 today! Frijoles! I decided to make compilation album to celebrate and as a gift to my friends. Here are the liner notes. If you want any of the music (or the whole CD) drop me a line… I’ll have an iMix ready soon. In the end, I *wish* there was an easier way for me to get it to you, period.

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First of all, let’s just say it up front: this compilation is an OUTRAGE. While it purports to be a record of my thirties, where is the Prince, or the Stevie Wonder, or the Michael Jackson!? Sting, anyone? Only one U2 song? Where the hell is Pete Townshend or Cake? Whither Lyrics Born, Blackalicious, or Spearhead? Midnight Oil? Not here? How is that possible?

And what’s up with the fact that it’s biased to my late 30s rather than my early thirties – lame!

Only 18 songs? How can 10 years in my life be only 18 songs?

An outrage I tell you!

And yet, I’ll stand for it. There is nothing good without constraints, I think. And the length of one CD is my only bulwark against self-indulgence.

So here you are: massively unfair, wildly subjective, and hopefully, nonetheless, right if not accurate. A flawed but deeply personal record of my thirties. I hope you:

  • like at least some of it
  • find at least a tiny bit of the transcendence, solace and inspiration that I have here
  • find something new
  • aren’t bored with the stuff you’ve heard me play a million times :-)

I love you!
‘deep

READ ON FOR THE SONG BY SONG NOTES:
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